Stair Lift

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by Hipper » Thu Jan 21, 2021 8:48 am

ClaretAL wrote:
Wed Jan 20, 2021 7:49 pm
Thank you all for the above but things have moved on some since. It is with a heavy heart that I announce the passing of Mrs ClaretAl (Lisa Haworth). Lisa has had major surgery spanning the last 5 years, culminating in end of life care over the last 3 days. Lisa was strong, thoughtful and driven as always, and Lisa dictated the last 3 days on her terms and waited until all her final wishes were complete, she had the brightest smile on her face throughout. She passed peacefully without pain and the most relaxed and comfortable I have seen her in years.

I have never had to deal with hr process following a bereavement before and finding it difficult, but presume as she passed lat night someone from the hospital will be in touch with what to do next? I am not loaded by any means of the imagination so is it all full balance up front ir do some take part payment for funeral services? and recommendations of undertakers are welcome
The hospital will ask you to attend a small meeting (with other relations if you require). They will explain the situation and give you a piece of paper certifying that your wife's body can be released. You then give this to the undertaker of your choice who will then have the authority to collect the body. A typical funeral does cost around £4,000 but you can cut out a lot of things, such as transport to the funeral, coffins, flowers etc.. There are grants for these things which cover some areas of funeral costs, typical about half the cost, but they are means tested. Your funeral directors can advise on this.

A decent undertaker will guide you through the system. I found undertaker costs to be pretty consistent in my locality so I chose a local firm rather then, say, the Co-op (the Co-op were good though for my brother so that's no criticism of them).

You will need to get a death certificate and that's done by visiting your nearest registrar of births, deaths and marriages. This then allows you to deal with banks and other officialdom. You may find it useful to have more then one death certificate if you have to deal with a lot of companies (say your wife had a lot of stocks and shares). At the registrar you can also do a kind of 'one stop' measure which will deal with state issues like pensions, Council Tax etc. so you don't have to contact them all individually. I found that very helpful.

Then there's your wife's estate. If there's a will that will make it easier but if not I don't think it is such an issue for a spouse. There should be plenty of information online, also regarding inheritance tax.

Going through your wife's things is the worst aspect of all this. If your children or other relations can help that may be useful but it will obviously stir up a lot of emotions but hopefully good memories.

Just take your time with all this. There's no rush and everyone is usually understanding.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by lesxdp » Thu Jan 21, 2021 10:19 am

You will need to get a death certificate and that's done by visiting your nearest registrar of births, deaths and marriages.

Under current circumstances I think you will find that everything can be done online and via phone. No visiting offices would be allowed. At least that was the case with me for my mothers death in October last year. As already suggested get several copies of the death certificate as it is more expensive to request more afterwards. Most organisations will return them after seeing them but you don't want to have to wait for their return. Again as already stated, just take your time with things.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by 1968claret » Thu Jan 21, 2021 10:21 am

So sorry to hear this news Al. Thoughts with you and your family.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by claretonthecoast1882 » Thu Jan 21, 2021 10:23 am

Sad sad news ClaretAl sorry for your loss.

As others have already mentioned speak to Alderson & Horan they are excellent

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Post by lesxdp » Thu Jan 21, 2021 10:36 am

You will need to get a death certificate and that's done by visiting your nearest registrar of births, deaths and marriages.

Under current circumstances I think you will find that everything can be done online and via phone. No visiting offices would be allowed. At least that was the case with me for my mothers death in October last year. As already suggested get several copies of the death certificate as it is more expensive to request more afterwards. Most organisations will return them after seeing them but you don't want to have to wait for their return. Again as already stated, just take your time with things.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by lakedistrictclaret » Thu Jan 21, 2021 11:27 am

So sorry to read your news, Al.

I went through this two and a half years ago. It's difficult, but you do come to terms with it.

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Post by boyyanno » Thu Jan 21, 2021 12:10 pm

Really sorry to hear this news Claret AL and I wish you all the best at this tough time.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by The Enclosure » Thu Jan 21, 2021 12:13 pm

so very sorry for your sad loss Al. Lisa sounds like she was a very special lady.
When my mum and dad passed I used Alderson and Hamer funeral directors, a very caring company.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by ClaretAL » Wed Feb 10, 2021 7:18 pm

Hi all, I just want to say a big thank you to everyone for being so supportive. I have lost people very close to me before but losing my wife has affected me 100 times more, and i dont mind admitting I'm lost in it all, and the "other half" is so apt as it feels half of me has gone. The funeral is tomorrow, and I just anted to thank everyone for their support, and also thank the MOD's for allowing this board to exist, it is more than a place to go for all things Clarets, it stops the dark side creeping in when people are vulnerable.

P.S, FunkyDrummer, I really do feel for you mate and here if you want to chat.
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Re: Stair Lift

Post by Aclaret » Wed Feb 10, 2021 7:26 pm

Thinking of you ClaretAL
All the best to you.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by CnBtruntru » Wed Feb 10, 2021 7:29 pm

There is a lot of us will need one at Turf be the time this pandemics sorted.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by CnBtruntru » Wed Feb 10, 2021 7:33 pm

Apologies Claretal never read any posts and very sorry for your loss, I understand the part regarding other half, I give out about mine but we've been together 37 years and I wouldn't know what to do without her.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by Funkydrummer » Wed Feb 10, 2021 10:50 pm

I really do feel for you Al, and my thoughts are with you and your family, especially for tomorrow.

I had not read this thread until tonight and so I apologise for not contributing sooner.

We have got it all to come next Tuesday, a double funeral for mum and dad. Don't think it's
fully sunk in yet as there's so much to do, as you will fully appreciate.

I too can't speak highly enough of Alderson and Horan, and Stephen is exceptionally good. He
buried his own brother about a month ago due to coronab@stard.

Stay strong pal and stay safe.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by lesxdp » Wed Feb 10, 2021 11:10 pm

Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Stay strong. Hope you have family and friends around you.

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Post by durhamclaret » Wed Feb 10, 2021 11:22 pm

I will say a little prayer for you tonight ClaretAl, you’ll find it hard tomorrow but you’ll get through it, my best wishes to you for the future.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by COBBLE » Thu Feb 11, 2021 7:48 am

Al, thinking of you this morning. I hope you can find some kind of peace and purpose in due course. Best wishes.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by beddie » Thu Feb 11, 2021 7:58 am

Our family will also be thinking of you today Al. God bless you all.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by ClaretDiver » Thu Feb 11, 2021 8:05 am

Thinking of you and your family today Al.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by longsidepies » Thu Feb 11, 2021 8:19 am

Thinking of you today Al.

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by claretblue » Thu Feb 11, 2021 4:46 pm

I've just caught up with this thread and want to let you know how sorry I am to hear of your circumstances.

Thoughts are with you and your family!

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Re: Stair Lift

Post by Spijed » Thu Feb 11, 2021 4:47 pm

Sorry to hear the sad news.

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