Who is Single and Lives Alone?

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Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Alanstevensonsgloves » Fri Nov 19, 2021 1:50 pm

As it is International Men's Day (or Wear a Footie Shirt Day if you listen to Talksport!) I thought I would see how many of us on here live alone? I guess for the older ones amongst us it could be because of a split from a partner, which is my case. How do you get on with living alone? Do you miss somebody being there when you come home, or do you embrace the peace and quiet? Anyone suffer from loneliness from time to time?

I have lived alone now for four years up and down the country and miss having a partner - not much luck on the dating apps and covid certainly hasn't helped dating! Having a good social life would also help I guess. I have moved to a new area where I know a couple of guys, but as they have families do not get out so much, especially not at weekend evenings when I would like to be out.

Be interested to hear of others men's experiences and coping strategies...

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by pompeyclaret » Fri Nov 19, 2021 2:24 pm

I lived alone for a while after a divorce. I was already seeing someone else, but certainly not at the point of moving in together.

Having a pet helped. Very much one sided conversations, but is the next best thing to company.

I joined a local group of people via some website, who met at pubs/ events to sociaise. Felt a bit weird at first, but everyone is in the same boat, and had some good nights out. Just getting out for walks/ bike rides, and seeing other friends/ family.

Ensuring your place is welcoming- nicely decorated, few plants etc, and eating a proper meal.

Finally realising it's ok to be alone, and enjoying that time to do things that make you happy.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by ClaretAndJew » Fri Nov 19, 2021 2:36 pm

I live alone and have no kids or a partner.

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Post by bfcjg » Fri Nov 19, 2021 2:42 pm

Wife says I'm in a world of my own most days.
A friend of mine happily lives alone but he has a load of friends, a dog and close family, don't know how I'd cope TBH.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by GodIsADeeJay81 » Fri Nov 19, 2021 2:42 pm

I do with no real issues, have done for a while now and wish I'd done it sooner.

I've always got stuff to do, whether it's my 6yr daughter staying over, going to see one of my other teenage kids, work, cinema etc.
I'm currently planning a trip to LA for me and my youngest lad for next xmas.

I prefer living alone, it's far less aggro and I can watch what I want on TV :D

I'm always chatting to mates or family via WhatsApp or phone calls and when I'm out working I'll have a natter with the other drivers or the restaurant staff in various towns, so I'm not lonely.

I have the odd day where I think it would be nice to have a spouse, but then I think about how they'd probably get in the way of how I'm living and I realise I'm happier single / living alone.
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Post by aclaretinstevenage » Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:00 pm

I don't and the older I get the more I wonder how or even if i'd cope on my own. Play golf 3 times a week, go to watch Stevenage and Burnley when we're down this way (the 13 hour round trip to Turf Moor and back is too much for me these days).

My wife has been brilliant company for 40 yrs+ and I'm in no hurry to change that.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by The Enclosure » Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:43 pm

I have lived alone for 25 years following my wife and I seperating after 32 years of marriage..you do get used to it but it does have pros and cons though.

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Post by NottsClaret » Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:49 pm

aclaretinstevenage wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:00 pm
I don't and the older I get the more I wonder how or even if i'd cope on my own. Play golf 3 times a week, go to watch Stevenage and Burnley when we're down this way (the 13 hour round trip to Turf Moor and back is too much for me these days).

My wife has been brilliant company for 40 yrs+ and I'm in no hurry to change that.
Just thinking the same as I read this, might make Mrs Notts a decent tea now.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by ClaretTony » Fri Nov 19, 2021 4:02 pm

I do now and for most of the time I have no problems on my own. But it was so, so difficult during lockdowns and when I was isolating.

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Post by BenWickes » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:03 pm

I made a conscious decision in 2010 to live a single life having had a miserable thirteen years in and out of bloody miserable relationships.Was never looking for a woman again and really wasn't.
Somehow out of, what? 2.5 billion women in the world. I stumbled across my future wife on facebook, who had only logged on because someone else set up an account for her and she had never had a computer or a desire to use the internet.
Turns out we share the exact same opinions, values, sense of humour. Almost eerily similar, she even loves football and is now a real Burnley fan. So, sometimes you meet someone when you aren't even trying to. I certainly wasn't and neither was she. Two months after first chatting online she moved in with me and we've been together ever since. Ten year anniversary last week,
To this day we still wonder how we found each other and I am a grumpy fart so there's hope for all of you :lol:
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Post by Holmeclaret » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:15 pm

I enjoy my own company when the Mrs has to be away for her work. Everything looks exactly how I want it to look and I can eat/drink/watch what I want, but I was recently alone for six weeks and I did start to feel very alone. It really made me think how things would be if it was permanent.
I feel for those who are alone not by choice and I appreciate my wife a bit more, I think.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Dark Cloud » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:20 pm

I actually think living alone is going to become a much more common "lifestyle choice" in the near and medium term future. I think the way relationships constantly break down and the issues it causes, plus the compromises involved in sharing your house and life with someone else are going to make it increasingly common to just have friends of both sexes, because very social (if you choose) but not necessarily get sucked into this "love and forever" stuff which is all very "Disney". So tbh, I don't see it as a bad thing and believe people are and will increasingly see it as perfectly normal.
BTW, I'm married (second time) and we've been married for 22 years (first time 15 years) so I don't necessarily practice what I preach, but then again if I was 21 again I suspect I would!

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Burnley1989 » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:23 pm

aclaretinstevenage wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:00 pm
I don't and the older I get the more I wonder how or even if i'd cope on my own. Play golf 3 times a week, go to watch Stevenage and Burnley when we're down this way (the 13 hour round trip to Turf Moor and back is too much for me these days).

My wife has been brilliant company for 40 yrs+ and I'm in no hurry to change that.
13 hours? Do you walk it mate? :lol:

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by fidelcastro » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:43 pm

I live alone. I find that if you don't like people, then you tend not to get lonely.
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Post by bfcwest » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:53 pm

My wife left me early on in lockdown after 25 years of marriage. It’s been really tough, I live in a very small town in the middle of the countryside with no family close by anymore. All on my own in a big old house.

There have been some really dark moments, but I’ve managed to find myself. Lost loads of weight, got really fit, found new hobbies and self improvement projects, and made the place more homely and fun to be in.

I’ve now met someone new and brilliant and things are looking up. Whilst I’m not on my own all the time anymore, I don’t mind so much when I am.

You’ve got to learn to like yourself first and foremost…get that bit sorted and then hope for the best!
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Post by ClaretAndJew » Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:59 pm

I think it's important to distinguish between be alone and being lonely.

I work Monday to Friday so I get my social interactions out the way during the week and the evenings are for me to chill and not have anyone to answer to.

Weekends I decide if I want to do something, again, my choice.

I've come from a single parent household and am an only child so that may have had an impact on me as an adult.

I don't really think I want to have kids, but that could change although I am 34 now so I doubt it but never say never.

I'm fairly happy I think.

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Post by Dark Cloud » Fri Nov 19, 2021 6:12 pm

I totally agree, there's a big difference between being or living alone and being lonely. Lots of people who are living alone choose to do so and are very comfortable with that and actually are extremely social. And even people who are living alone not through their own choice can have lots of social contact and not be lonely. However, I do feel desperately sorry for anyone who is alone and feels lonely. That really must be very, very tough.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Stalbansclaret » Fri Nov 19, 2021 6:42 pm

Dark Cloud's post above is very true.
I have lived on my own since 2005 after marriage break up , though I have had a couple of lengthy none-live-in relationships in that time. I like being able to completely suit myself what I do and when I do it. In terms of managing I make sure I keep up active social contact with family and friends around the country as well as running a Sunday football team. I think it would be miserable to be alone with nothing to look forward to by way of meaningful social activity but I make sure I am never in that position. I also live in a block of 6 flats so it's rare not to be chatting to one neighbour or another on any given day.
I will have days when I am genuinely alone but very rarely feel lonely ...if I feel the need for human contact I'll either go across the road to the pub or take a book up to a coffee shop. What with the bit of work I still do, reading, running the football team, teaching myself guitar using You Tube and generally keeping on top of life there is always stuff to do.
As covid has eased I've made a deliberate choice to say "Yes" to any invitation to socialise or travel and now have a good diary of events and trips lined up . Living alone gives the freedom to do this, as well as the freedom to interact with the opposite sex when the opportunity arises ! It would need to be a very. very good relationship before I contemplated with living with anyone again I think.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by aclaretinstevenage » Fri Nov 19, 2021 7:20 pm

Burnley1989 wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:23 pm
13 hours? Do you walk it mate? :lol:
It might be quicker to walk at times!

Leave here at about 8:00, a stop at Hartshead Moor then onto Burnley, bit of a stretch, chat to some friends, watch the game then head for home often getting back here about 9pm................just for clarity :D :D :D

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by LeadBelly » Fri Nov 19, 2021 7:22 pm

I got divorced over 25 years ago and lived alone other than a couple of months-long interludes through that time.

I'm a bit more introverted than extroverted - I'm happy in my own company and dont need other people to bounce off much. Ive got quite a lot of friends to socialise with- usually around footy/cricket/rugby/horse-racing/gigs/visiting places & get out socialising about 2 days per week. Also keep in close contact with my children who I get on very well with.

I dont feel lonely at all and am probably at the stage where it'd be really difficult to adjust my life to living with somebody else again. Could be seen as being selfish but I'm happy to just live my life doing things I want in my own space (though, as per above, I enjoy my times in company out of the house).
Having said which, I enjoyed being married/ nest-building and raising kids during that phase of my life.

I think it depends on the introvert/extrovert balance in your personality. One of my (grown-up) children is pretty extrovert and I think will always need to be with somebody/bouncing off other people, the other is more like me- happy alone but also likes to socialise.
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Post by LS7 » Fri Nov 19, 2021 8:18 pm

I like to think I enjoy my own company and am generally resilient but I’m pretty certain I would be an alcoholic if I lived on my own.

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Post by warksclaret » Fri Nov 19, 2021 8:44 pm

More honesty on this thread than I have seen for a while. Also proves how very different we all are, and how we cope (or don't in some cases). The common denominator of course is our beloved team, which for many is the "glue" that gives us all a purpose in life
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Post by Winstonswhite » Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:03 pm

ClaretAndJew wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:59 pm
I think it's important to distinguish between be alone and being lonely.

I work Monday to Friday so I get my social interactions out the way during the week and the evenings are for me to chill and not have anyone to answer to.

Weekends I decide if I want to do something, again, my choice.

I've come from a single parent household and am an only child so that may have had an impact on me as an adult.

I don't really think I want to have kids, but that could change although I am 34 now so I doubt it but never say never.

I'm fairly happy I think.
Great post.

I had the same upbringing and often wonder if it had an impact on me. I’m currently in a relationship but live alone and worried about taking the next step as I love my own space.

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Post by KLClaret » Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:05 pm

Best thread in a long while.Get it off your chest fellow Clarets

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Billy Balfour » Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:09 pm

I know I wouldn't have been able to cope with being on my own during lockdown. In fact, I don't think I could live on my own. I like my own space though, and luckily I have a man cave where I can escape.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Steve1956 » Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:35 pm

Couldn't hack that living on my own,when I got divorced, for a short period I lived alone,I worked permanent earlies so I was coming home to an empty house with still a big chunk of the day left,found myself drinking way way to much just out of boredom,you can't beat a women for company...even though you get a lot of grief off em I couldn't live without one 🤗
Respect to all the guys who like their own space though.....I couldn't hack it at all.

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Post by Inchy » Fri Nov 19, 2021 10:04 pm

I have never lived alone. Grew up with my Dad and brother, then went to Uni and met my wife, then we moved in and got married and had kids. Sometimes I wish I was alone buts that’s what 2 kids under 5 can do. Rarely I get a night away with work, or a night alone at home and I love it, but I’m pretty sure I’d be useless on my own. I’m not afraid to say I need people in my life to keep me sane. My wife is a saint as well because I know I can be hard work.

I’ve got a few mates that live alone and they have joined walking groups to meet new people and love it.



Out of interest, how are people married for 25+ years and then separate. I understand anyone can separate for playing away but I know that’s not always the case. Surely things don’t work for decades and then suddenly stop working? Or are people unhappy for decades? Seems strange to me because I couldn’t imagine this situation
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Post by Damo » Fri Nov 19, 2021 10:30 pm

I like doing things on my own and not having to put up with people generally, but one person I never get bored and annoyed by is my Mrs.
She also keeps me on the straight and narrow and I reckon a few months without her in my company, would lead to my life descending into a fair amount of chaos.
I have total respect for people who are single, happy and thriving, but I personally don't think I have that level of self discipline or resilience.
Good will to you all though. Whatever your cohabiting situation.

@ksr I've only just seen this thread sorry :lol:

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by fatboy47 » Fri Nov 19, 2021 11:09 pm

Er indoors always packs my bag for my mainland trips...last month I dared to ask why she'd packed 8 pairs of kecks for a four day trip...
.. "" coz you're a sh1tty-arse"" was her instant reply.

I do value our mutual understanding of each other.
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Post by BenWickes » Sat Nov 20, 2021 7:59 am

Steve1956 wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:35 pm
Couldn't hack that living on my own,when I got divorced, for a short period I lived alone,I worked permanent earlies so I was coming home to an empty house with still a big chunk of the day left,found myself drinking way way to much just out of boredom,you can't beat a women for company...even though you get a lot of grief off em I couldn't live without one 🤗
Respect to all the guys who like their own space though.....I couldn't hack it at all.
Similar with me. Living on your own can be too much of a good thing (in retrospect, looking back also a bad thing) in terms of drinking more than you should to kill the boredom somewhat. Mixing with other people of a similar ilk. For me anyway, life was going the wrong way and was drinking more and more. Socially it was great as I was never alone or lonely but it was affecting me physically. Working and drinking, rinse and repeat.
Meeting my future wife gave me a purpose. Your priorities become more clear and I am enjoying life now more than I ever have.
That said. I do get people who prefer being single. As I mentioned in a previous post. I was quite happy with being single and the lifestyle at the time. As alluded to above. Everyone's different and may have ways of filling their days in a healthier way than me.
I am not sure I'd even be here to type this if I'd carried on my single lifestyle though.

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Post by Stalbansclaret » Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:11 am

Interesting comments on here. Further to my own post higher up I should maybe have added that, like Leadbelly, I have great grown-up kids who I stay on close touch with and think that is a big factor in positive mental health. I also did enjoy the earlier , married, phase in my life but it ran its course for me. As for drinking I just don’t drink when I’m on my own … don’t see the point…. and do all my drinking socially with others. If I’m addicted to anything it’s going for walks and going to coffee shops.

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Post by BenWickes » Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:27 am

Stalbansclaret wrote:
Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:11 am
Interesting comments on here. Further to my own post higher up I should maybe have added that, like Leadbelly, I have great grown-up kids who I stay on close touch with and think that is a big factor in positive mental health. I also did enjoy the earlier , married, phase in my life but it ran its course for me. As for drinking I just don’t drink when I’m on my own … don’t see the point…. and do all my drinking socially with others. If I’m addicted to anything it’s going for walks and going to coffee shops.
I don't think 'addiction' is the right word. Coming home to an empty house I resorted to drink and surrounded myself with other singletons and drank together. It killed the boredom and socially I was never really alone but it was no way to live and was a slippery slope.
I don't drink anywhere near as much now as there is no need. Life is more fulfilled.
Everyone is different and has different ways of dealing with life. Some people get a rush from cycling, jogging etc. I'm quite a lazy bugger and after a day's work (similar to Steve I did earlies) and just wanted to relax after work.
It's all down to how people are as individuals. For me being single was like Men Behaving Badly on speed. Was never going to end well but some people can fill their lives in other ways that are healthy and live a full life and be happy and crucially healthy.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by NottsClaret » Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:34 am

Steve1956 wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:35 pm
you can't beat a women for company...
You shouldn’t beat a woman for any reason Steve :D

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Billy Balfour » Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:40 am

Inchy wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 10:04 pm
Out of interest, how are people married for 25+ years and then separate. I understand anyone can separate for playing away but I know that’s not always the case. Surely things don’t work for decades and then suddenly stop working? Or are people unhappy for decades? Seems strange to me because I couldn’t imagine this situation
I think people are unhappy for decades. Also, we don't know what goes on behind closed doors, and I'm not only talking about domestic violence or relentless psychological bullying. It can be someone being nothing more than a domestic slave, or the drain of living with someone who's become incredibly dull over the years. People wake up and realise that they aren't getting any younger, and they get out before they become too old to do so.

An uncle of ours is currently going through a divorce, and he's in his early 60s. To be honest, our aunt should have left him years ago. Nearly all his none-sleeping free time was spent either in the pub or doing something with his divorcé mates, and with absolutely no regard for her as long as the house was cleaned, washing/ironing done, and good food on the table. BTW, she worked full time as well. He went out one Saturday afternoon, and came home after chucking out time, as per usual, only to find an empty house. Now the selfish beer baby spends all his time moaning, to anyone who'll listen, about how he loves her and how badly he's been treated. No self-awareness whatsoever.

I also have a mate who is similar, and his wife keeps threatening to leave and one day she will because we all have our breaking point.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Inchy » Sun Nov 21, 2021 8:09 am

Billy Balfour wrote:
Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:40 am
I think people are unhappy for decades. Also, we don't know what goes on behind closed doors, and I'm not only talking about domestic violence or relentless psychological bullying. It can be someone being nothing more than a domestic slave, or the drain of living with someone who's become incredibly dull over the years. People wake up and realise that they aren't getting any younger, and they get out before they become too old to do so.

An uncle of ours is currently going through a divorce, and he's in his early 60s. To be honest, our aunt should have left him years ago. Nearly all his none-sleeping free time was spent either in the pub or doing something with his divorcé mates, and with absolutely no regard for her as long as the house was cleaned, washing/ironing done, and good food on the table. BTW, she worked full time as well. He went out one Saturday afternoon, and came home after chucking out time, as per usual, only to find an empty house. Now the selfish beer baby spends all his time moaning, to anyone who'll listen, about how he loves her and how badly he's been treated. No self-awareness whatsoever.

I also have a mate who is similar, and his wife keeps threatening to leave and one day she will because we all have our breaking point.

I’ve seen that many times when I was a young lad playing golf most days. Old blokes spending their spare time at weekends playing golf and every evening in the 19th. Always seemed to end in divorce. I realised that once my kids were born any hobby I had would have to fit around family life, so I don’t bother with golf now. I run and cycle a lot but I try to fit it around family life. It’s a fine balance and I know I’ve ****** my wife off before for being selfish so I’m not perfect.


Financially I can understand why people stay married. I’ve not intention of leaving my family but if I wanted to I would be bloody skint. I’m comfortable now. Both me and my wife have fairly decent salaries. But if I left I’d struggle to have the same standard of living living off one wage and paying child support

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Tribesmen » Sun Nov 21, 2021 10:26 am

Funny when i think back as i was so happy alone by myself for years . Now fast forward 25 years of marraige still content love so much when the wife is away and have the house to myself .
My wife who knows me best says that i am a person that doesn't need others and if she was to die i would just carry on alone and happy with my lot in life , i think she is right love going to football by myself as strange as it sounds .

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by ŽižkovClaret » Sun Nov 21, 2021 9:25 pm

Never been diagnosed with owt, but i dont think i'm wired up for a relationship, so living alone has always made more sense to me.

I've had periods sharing with 1 or more flatmates, and others with just me, but now into my 5th year living alone over here and i wouldn't swap it.

Frankly there's a lot of good points, even simple stuff like knowing your stuff will be exactly where you left it, (which yeah, does mean you cant blame anyone for it being a tip lol), and i don't have to worry about anyone using all my milk/bog roll/beer etc and not replacing it.

There can be times where you find you dont speak to anyone for 24 hours, especially recent years with lockdowns etc, but the independence is honestly worth it, and not to be vulgar, living where i am, certain needs aren't hard to satiate in a mutually beneficial manner ;)

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Lancasterclaret » Sun Nov 21, 2021 10:24 pm

Each to whatever suits I guess

Some brilliant stories in here, and its good to see how many are happy with their choices

I can't imagine not living without Mrs LC being there btw

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Alanstevensonsgloves » Thu Dec 02, 2021 5:33 pm

As LC says some excellent stories from the heart here. I particularly like the one from Ben Wickes on how he met his wife! For me, I started the thread as I am a reluctant single living alone. After four years of being single I am now really feeling I am missing having a partner in my life. I work from home alone and after work has finished, I am in my house alone. If I go out somewhere I come back to an emoty home. No-one to great me which I miss. Tried various dating sites with no success. I have a couple of mates in the area, but they are all family men so a Fri or Sat night out rarely happens. Instead it is a few beers early one evening during the week, or a couple on a weekend afternoon. So I guess I can be classed as 'lonely' as opposed to 'alone.'

By nature I am a socialble animal and loved working in big offices were I could chat with loads of people. Then 5 years ago I went solo and started up my own consultancy so working from home. My salary tripled but I am sure it was the trigger for various mental health issues I have had since, due to the removal of a huge part of social contact, added to the fact I split with my ex a year later. I now work for another company as my consultancy was wipedout by Covid, but still from home.

I know I need to broaden my social circle and be more pro-active. Pompey, you mentionned you met some people via a website for drinks etc, which one was that?

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by jrgbfc » Thu Dec 02, 2021 6:05 pm

Alanstevensonsgloves wrote:
Thu Dec 02, 2021 5:33 pm
As LC says some excellent stories from the heart here. I particularly like the one from Ben Wickes on how he met his wife! For me, I started the thread as I am a reluctant single living alone. After four years of being single I am now really feeling I am missing having a partner in my life. I work from home alone and after work has finished, I am in my house alone. If I go out somewhere I come back to an emoty home. No-one to great me which I miss. Tried various dating sites with no success. I have a couple of mates in the area, but they are all family men so a Fri or Sat night out rarely happens. Instead it is a few beers early one evening during the week, or a couple on a weekend afternoon. So I guess I can be classed as 'lonely' as opposed to 'alone.'

By nature I am a socialble animal and loved working in big offices were I could chat with loads of people. Then 5 years ago I went solo and started up my own consultancy so working from home. My salary tripled but I am sure it was the trigger for various mental health issues I have had since, due to the removal of a huge part of social contact, added to the fact I split with my ex a year later. I now work for another company as my consultancy was wipedout by Covid, but still from home.

I know I need to broaden my social circle and be more pro-active. Pompey, you mentionned you met some people via a website for drinks etc, which one was that?
Hi mate, I obviously don't know your age or personal circumstances but have you considered things like walking football? My Dad started going and now goes out for a drink most weeks with the blokes he's met there.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by longside72 » Thu Dec 02, 2021 6:16 pm

Anybody who wants to attend 'Food For Thought' on monday 13th december feel free . A few local lads have just set this up , open to men of any age . They have also organised a fundraising walk from Clowbridge Res' to Bacup to raise funds for Papyrus ( prevention of young suicide ) on saturday 11th december , meeting at 11:30am.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by lewishamclaret » Thu Dec 02, 2021 6:23 pm

Looks like a great initiative Longside 72. I think male mental health is so often overlooked. Our footy networks and friends are so important to so many people.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by longside72 » Thu Dec 02, 2021 7:06 pm

https://www.gofundme.com/f/raising-fund ... e=customer

A 13 year old lad tragically took his own life at weekend , i know it's slightly 'off topic' but any donations would be greatfully received

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Boss Hogg » Thu Dec 02, 2021 7:39 pm

I don’t live alone but would be quite happy to, but then I like my own company. Some people have to be around others nearly all the time. I can think of loads of things I’d be happy to do on my own. I actually prefer going for a walk on my own and find it really clears my head. Must be very hard if you are used to having someone around you have lost though. if you are lonely my advice would be to take up hobbies and join clubs. Use your time to help someone less fortunate or volunteer to do something.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by ewanrob » Wed Dec 22, 2021 3:41 pm

Met my wife when I was 18, married at 24...and still hanging on in there at 60. But, if anything was to happen would I look again...very much doubt it. I really enjoy my own company and going out with my dog. But saying that, I really felt for the Likes of ClaretTony during the lockdown...at least we had each other and the kids..cant even begin to think what it was like if you were all alone. All the best to you that were, and I really hope the potential for another one doesnt impact on you to much.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by ClaretTony » Wed Dec 22, 2021 3:56 pm

ewanrob wrote:
Wed Dec 22, 2021 3:41 pm
Met my wife when I was 18, married at 24...and still hanging on in there at 60. But, if anything was to happen would I look again...very much doubt it. I really enjoy my own company and going out with my dog. But saying that, I really felt for the Likes of ClaretTony during the lockdown...at least we had each other and the kids..cant even begin to think what it was like if you were all alone. All the best to you that were, and I really hope the potential for another one doesnt impact on you to much.
I know I wasn't on my own but it was so difficult and once lockdown was over I'd lost confidence and wouldn't go out. I've met and befriended neighbours who have been brilliant, including one regular member of this board, who have been brilliant in terms of getting me bits of shopping.

Last Christmas I thought I'd be spending at my niece's but then we got the restrictions on households so spent the day on my own.

I'm not sure I'd have been going out now but for coming close to losing my closest family member during the summer (non COVID illness). I think it changed my thoughts on life and pushed me into going out although I still only do for football and even then won't travel to away games on coaches.

Generally, I've been fine living on my own for what is now a long time, but I've found it really tough and I know a lot of others have.

Hopefully Christmas this year at my niece's, providing I can shake off this horrendous cold.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by elwaclaret » Wed Dec 22, 2021 4:11 pm

Christmas can be very tough for recently separated/divorced men. When I split from Fiona in November I spent that Christmas alone in Lumb living in a one up one down rental and never saw a soul other than an hour visiting my parents. It really was the most lonely I have ever felt. It was around ten years ago but I’m still back to being a fully committed Christmas reveller even now. Should anyone need a chat over Christmas, this forum could be a Godsend, like it was for me; there is all ways someone ready for a natter, including me (who will be popping in and out for the purpose) at points over Christmas don’t be scared to get in touch, you’ll be surprised who is only too happy to chat.
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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Billy Balfour » Wed Dec 22, 2021 4:32 pm

longside72 wrote:
Thu Dec 02, 2021 7:06 pm
https://www.gofundme.com/f/raising-fund ... e=customer

A 13 year old lad tragically took his own life at weekend , i know it's slightly 'off topic' but any donations would be greatfully received
That's heartbreaking. The poor family.

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Re: Who is Single and Lives Alone?

Post by Hipper » Wed Dec 22, 2021 4:58 pm

warksclaret wrote:
Fri Nov 19, 2021 8:44 pm
More honesty on this thread than I have seen for a while. Also proves how very different we all are, and how we cope (or don't in some cases). The common denominator of course is our beloved team, which for many is the "glue" that gives us all a purpose in life
You no what, I have at times ditched the club/football and could easily do it again too!

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